The definition of a goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result. Well, what’s the result?
Social media has started some serious trends over the years but one of my faves is definitely #relationshipgoals. You see these cute couples with matching shoes and him lifting her up in the air above him, slightly touching each others lips as the background sunset illuminates the sky. Instagram blows up the post with 10k loves with hundreds of #relationshipgoals comments. Really? GOALS?!
Makes me think about my own relationship goals. Making sure my husband knows how much I love and appreciate him. Telling him I’m sorry if I allow my mouth to take control. Remembering to kiss him goodnight and exuding love every single morning routine. That’s what it is. It’s this routine that can get stagnant over time without the daily reminders of love and compassion.
The goal for some is marriage. Do I, as a married woman of 5 years, believe that marriage should be the ultimate goal? Honestly, no. Marriage shouldn’t be the end all be all because it isn’t the end. Life continues after marriage and if you’re just in it for the wedding, don’t do it. I know people who are ten years in STILL paying off their extravagant weddings. I know people who are divorced still paying off their over the top nuptials. Point is, don’t let social media gas you up on what a relationship should be. The best relationships recognize the struggles and aren’t oblivious to the changes life brings. I may not like my husband every second of the day but I love him every moment. I love his flaws just as much as his strengths.
At the end of the day anyone can take a nice photo but it takes a strong couple to recognize the ultimate goal, a happy life with your best friend. The End.